Hello everyone, I hope this post is not too confusing. I had a lot I wanted to say and I did my best to write it in a way that flowed well and that "made sense". :)
I am sure everyone has an experience or at least has heard of an experience where something seemed to be going great or you knew for sure what was happening was a part of God's perfect plan...just to watch it be destroyed. Maybe you met the man of your dreams, had a wonderful wedding and then month's later it fell apart. Or, maybe you lost your job, quickly found another job that seemed perfect and then a week later they let you go. Maybe you lost a child in a miscarriage or an adoption fell through. Maybe you just knew that this would be the perfect time to get pregnant, but you couldn't. All of these things are hard to find the "silver lining". What good can come out of any of these situations?
When these things happen it is easy to start questioning God...whether you are directly related to the situation or not. How could God allow that to happen? What is he thinking?!
These questions are understandable and I think God understands our frustration. But, we have to make sure we seek understanding in the right ways. Although doubt may creep in we have to look to the Bible and other Christians for truth.
Proverbs 3:5 says, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding."
Romans 8:18 says, "For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us."
We should not fear because we know that in the end, whether here on this earth or one day in heaven, we will see God's goodness. His plan will be revealed and we will see what God had in store. Until then, we can rest in His comfort.
"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will
strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous
Another thing we should consider is where are we putting God vs. the people and things in our lives? Are we putting His plan above our own?
"Indeed, I count everything as a loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I might gain Christ"
This verse can be really hard to read. I will "count them as rubbish"? In case you didn't know, the word "rubbish" means trash. I will count all things as trash. Now, like I have said before... I am not a Bible scholar but I don't think this verse is trying to say that our family, children, and fur-babies are trash but I do think it means we should be putting Christ at the forefront and that we should be looking to God above all things. We should be giving all of our earthly things to Christ and putting Him above it all. We know that He is the ultimate prize. If we put God first, we are able to see more clearly and may even be able to trust His plan more fully.
Do you put God at the forefront?
I'll be honest. The answer about 85% of the time for me is "NO". So often I look to this world to fulfill my needs/wants. I plan out my life and try and make things just right. I look to my husband to make me happy, I look to my friends to find my worth, I look to my students to boost my sense of achievement and rarely do I seek God to find these things. Rarely do I seek God when my plans change and the outcomes don't make sense. If I could learn to put God at the forefront I would not be so self-focused, I would be happier, I would be less stressed and I would be better at loving others! I may even be able to see God even when the plan does not go the direction I thought it would. I might be able to feel His comfort no matter the outcome.
"For in him all things were created: things in heaven and on earth,
visible and invisible, whether thrones or powers or rulers or
authorities; all things have been created through him and for him."
I hope that I will be better at putting God first. In doing so, I will find peace when things don't go my way and if I give all the other stuff to God, I may be able to find peace in the midst of challenges because I know that what I had or what could have been was not mine to begin with. It is all His.
So, when God's plans don't make sense...let's seek Him and make sure we are searching for answers in the right places. Not looking to ourselves and our knowledge to figure it out.